How To Be A Parent That Supports Your Teen!

How to parent your teenager so she feels supported and not controlled Is this possible? This is such a fine line, isn’t it? As parents we want to help our teens make good decisions, by not making decisions for them. If they keep making bad decisions, we have to step in and talk to them about it.  If they want to manage their own lives, they have to step up to the plate and do it. I often hear from teens that they want their parent to stop controlling them. When I ask what this means or in what ways are they feel controlled,  usually...

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Spark A Movement

SPARK Change. Join the Movement SPARK is a girl-fueled activist movement to demand an end to the sexualization of women and girls in media.  They are collaborating with hundreds of girls 13-22 and more than 60 national organizations to reject the commodified sexualized images of girls in the media and support the development of girls’ healthy sexuality and self-esteem. I love this article on their site, that I want to share with you. By Ness Fraser A combination of turning 21 and becoming interested in working with adolescents has...

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Eating Disorders

Eating disorders are a serious issue with teenage girls and women today. 50% of kids over 6-years-old want to be 3 sizes smaller, and 80% of 10-year-old kids are afraid of getting fat, and 10 million kids have eating disorders. These are staggering statistics. I am reading a book called “Life without ED” This book by Jenni Schaefer really goes into what it’s like to have a relationship with an Eating Disorder “ED”. Even though I don’t have an eating disorder it gave me a deeper insight into my wounded...

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How To Parent: Respond or React

“Listen to me, don’t talk back, what’s the matter with you? You’re grounded” Who is this Father talking to? It appears that he is talking to his daughter, but his daughter is clearly not there. His daughter is so shut down that she is no longer able to hear what her father is saying. I felt like my parents didn’t see me, couldn’t see me, because of their own wounds that they had not worked through. Now, I don’t blame them, I know they did the best they could. All I am saying is that because they were unable to do their inner work, they were...

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The Prom and Teenage Girls

The Prom is right around the corner and the anxiety is building. Teenage girls are out buying  new dresses, the perfect shoes, having their hair done, and their make-up. Don’t forget your nails! What about having enough money. Are you forgetting something, “OH, a date”.  It’s seems so stressful. Thank goodness it’s a bit different now than when I was a teenager. You actually don’t even need a date to go. I love that, even though most girls would probably admit they would prefer having one.  This is when...

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