How To Help Your Teen With Stress
I’ve experienced both being an insecure teen, and being a worried parent, and I can honestly say it’s a toss up regarding who is the most stressed out.
As a teenager, I had anxiety pumping through my body most of the time because of my insecurities, friends shunning me, boyfriends treating me poorly, my clothes, my complexion, or homework. Now as an adult these don’t seem like a big deal, but they were when I was a teen.
As a parent, I also had my share of anxiety running through me, with worrying about my daughters (big one), my job, my relationships, and the household duties, cleaning and bills etc.
I’ve put some tips together for parents to deal with the stresses of their own lives and also how to support their teens through stressful times.
Tips For Parents To Support Their Teen:
- Encourage your teen to talk about what is bothering them, listen to them, allowing them to explore their feelings
- Give your teen positive reinforcement, and watch your negative talk
- Teach them how to problem solve, asking them questions about their stresses, and talk about solutions
- Pick your battles wisely, try to let the small stuff go (cleaning bedroom just right, the way they are dressed, etc.), it only adds pressure
- Help them with their homework if needed
- Encourage them to participate in hobbies they enjoy
- Go to the gym together, this is a great stress reducer
- Hugs them a lot, touch soothes stress
- Let them know that you are there for them, and they are not alone
Tips For How to deal with stress as a Parents:
- Make sure you are on a good exercise regiment
- Pay attention to alcohol intake, it can add to anxiety
- Don’t ignore your problems, face them head on
- Practice Meditation
- When you are feeling overly stressed out during the day, close your eyes and breathe for a moment
- Do nice things for yourself, take baths, trade foot rubs with your teen, and get a massage
- Make sure your being creative, not just working, and tending to the kids
- Share daily chores with the whole family
- Make sure you are taking care of business, not letting things pile up, physically and emotionally
- Reach out to friends for support
Stress can hurt us physically, and beat us up emotionally, so it’s important to pay attention and do what we can to reduce it. Today’s economic times in general are very stressful; so try not to add to it. Realize that we are on a journey with this thing called life and try not to take it so seriously. Enjoy the journey and know that what is happening in your life is meant to be for you to learn what lessons you need to learn.
Parents, it’s ok to ask for help!
If you are looking to find other ways to help relieve your stress, I would be more than happy to provide a a 15-minute Complimentary Discovery Session with me where I can help you break down some of your biggest obstacles. Please take a moment and sign up for your free session here: http://meetme.so/DebraBeck
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Teen and parenting mentor Debra Beck, who has spent over 20 years working with teens and parents, is a devoted mother, sought-after presenter, and author. She has helped thousands of girls develop their self-esteem. She now runs her popular parenting website, EmpoweredTeensandParents.com, publishes the “Empowered Teens and Parents” newsletter, encourages girls to be the best “young women” possible, and gives moms and dads the understanding they need to help their girls mature with pride and confidence.
Debra has helped thousands of teenage girls with their self-esteem. Her award-winning book “My Feet Aren’t Ugly: A Girl’s Guide to Loving Herself from the Inside Out”, has been revised and updated for re- release in September 2011 with Beaufort Books.