mom, HEATHER WEEKLY, & daughter
After only a few months of working with Debra our house has become a more peaceful place for the whole family. My days are no longer filled with dread and anger. We both actually want to spend time with each other and best of all she tells me she loves me and gives me big hugs. Because of Debra I’m now filled with hope that I will have that mother daughter relationship that I’ve always longed for.
Debra has been a God send. The months leading up to me contacting her were filled with days of dread, anger, guilt, and hopelessness as my daughter and I were constantly fighting and angry with each other. We were emotionally disconnected and to be honest I didn’t really like being around my daughter and her negative energy. She would tell me how much she hates me and wishes she had a different family. I felt she needed help and that if we could just “fix” her then we would have a peaceful house.
I went into the mentor sessions thinking Debra would help me figure out my daughter and HER issues. But Debra did something even better, she helped me figure out MY issues. She helped me acknowledge past traumas, what my triggers are , and how old beliefs relate to how I handle my daughter. She helped me realize how I play a huge part in all this and gave me tools to deal with my triggers. She gave great insight and suggestions on how to handle certain situations and held me accountable to follow through with them.
Nyree, mom & kennedy, daughter
Sedona was the perfect backdrop for a weekend of breakthrough communication and learning. Debra took me and my daughter through a weekend of exploration into why we think and respond to triggers. She provided practical tools to use in moments that challenge old thought patterns. This weekend drew us closer as I got to see into the heart of my daughter. I feel empowered as a parent whereas coming into this retreat I was lost and confused. I can’t wait to use what we learned in my daily life. Thank you Debra for providing such an enriching weekend of learning. I would travel again across the country for this retreat. It was well worth it.
It was a very powerful retreat. I learned a lot about my mom’s side of our issues and had a better understanding of how my behaviors take me out of alignment. I now have the tools to better communicate with others.
lori, mom & gracie, daughter
Debra was great to work with. She gave me a voice and showed my daughter the wounds I was working through from childhood, when I struggled to hold boundaries. With my daughter’s understanding of what is happening inside me I feel I can better transform my parenting.
I believe the retreat went very well, I had a good experience with Debra and learning about my inner self and also learning about my mom and her and yourself. The retreat really spoke to me and help me and my mom both around our relationship.
amy, mom & mia, daughter
As a therapists and counselor, I learned So much from this retreat with my daughter. We love the peaceful serenity of the Sedona historic and, more than that Debra’s knowledge, passion, and compassion. We arrived a little bit apprehensive and left completely calm and at ease. Debra radiates love and light. If you are thinking about doing this retreat. Don’t hesitate, do it.
I signed up for this retreat with some healthy skepticism laced with the tremendous amount of hope. I feared that the relationship with my daughter was irreparably damaged so this was my last hope.
On the second day of this three day journey we had a breakthrough. It was tough and it was painful but with Debra’s professional and loving guidance, my daughter and I clearly understood the meaning of our child, our ego, and our higher self and how our egos were getting in the way of our love for one another. It was as if a light bulb had turned on and we knew exactly what we needed to do.
My daughter apologized to me and told me she loved me. She had not said these words to me in several years. She in turn, realize that she is and always has been loved, without this retreat I would not have known that she felt unloved.
This was an amazing experience that I would recommend to anyone who is experiencing problems with their mother daughter relationship including, but not limited to an estrangement. Thank you Debra
Arriving to the retreat, my relationship with my daughter was headed toward “The End” I was desperate for answers, understanding, tools and a calm, neutral place for it. Debra is amazing, her retreat in Sedona is breathtaking! Love our casita and spending time in Sedona with my daughter. I left with a new sense of me, a new sense of love, kindness and peace. Thank you for showing me all I am and all I deserve.
julia, mom & jennifer, daughter
As soon as we began I knew this was the direction I was wanting to go I felt Debra was spot on with where the feelings are coming from and truly gifted me with the tools to care for those feelings. She did such a great job at turning an ugly/hurt filled situation into a meaningful, purposeful, beautiful experience. I love the way I see and feel about myself, my mom and our relationship… Not only with each other, but with every body else in life. I can’t thank you enough, Debra. You are such a gift! I feel blessed to share in this experience.
-With love, Jennifer (Daughter)
Debra, thank you so much for helping me to connect with my daughter and myself. I’m very glad that I chose you in this reconnecting process!
-Sincerely, Julia (Mom)
Debra’s mother and daughter retreat set my daughter on a path toward untangling the cycle of emotional tension that existed between us. We learn that we react emotionally because of our own internal feelings that cause the big emotional reaction toward one another’s circumstances. Deborah helped us see this pattern of interaction. She taught us to recognize those emotional reactions and show us how to calm those feelings to better support and react with each other. We gained a greater understanding of the role our inner child has on our reactions. We are leading this retreat with tools to care for our self more kindly and loving each other more compassionately.
diane, mom & darrian, daughter
There is no doubt that my daughter and I love each other, but it became difficult to communicate and we took everything so personal that it got in the way of showing each other that love. Debra was able to show me a new way of looking at my hurt and open up my heart to see that it wasn’t about anyone else, but it was my own wounds that had an impact on all my relationships. This retreat was an absolute awakening for me and has allowed me to view things from a different perspective for my own self growth. Now I can contribute to a healthy relationship with not only my daughter but everyone in my life I’m so thankful that Debra has given me insight to see things differently and that she is open my mind and heart to a more beautiful, loving relationship with my daughter.
When my mom signed us up for this retreat, I initially was only doing it for her benefit. I knew we had difficulty getting along, but I thought she was the one who needed to change in order to better our relationship. In just three days, however, I realized that was the furthest thing from correct. Debra really opened up my eyes to how we all contribute to every unhealthy relationship we have, and I started to see things differently with not only my mom but my whole outlook on life. There were times when I was skeptical of trying her method, but Debra was always calm and let me work at my own pace. When I didn’t understand the concept completely, she was able to explain things in a way that both my mom and I understood. The whole weekend was life-changing and I recommend it for anyone who is interested in bettering their life in any aspect. Debra is an amazing person and very accommodating to every situation. Whether you are in a difficult spot or just want to learn more about yourself, I don’t think there is anyone who wouldn’t extremely benefit from this retreat.
betty, mom & kate, daughter
This retreat was fabulous. It brought us closer together and helped us heal ourselves and our relationship. The tools that Deborah has given us will be beneficial throughout our lives. Deborah was wonderful to work with providing us with her knowledge her kindness and her sincerity throughout our stay. Thank you Debra for all that you have given us to grow and strengthen our relationship.
-Betty and Kate
The knowledge and tools that Debra has given my daughter and I is incredible! She is extremely compassionate and gave my 16 year old daughter and I a place where we felt safe to talk to her about anything and with no judgment. She came to us with facts and then provided us with the tools to be able to become stronger in our relationship and to understand each other on a level that was so deep. What Debra does in her Mother Daughter retreat is so special and so powerful! My wish is that she could somehow reach every mother and daughter out there, so that everyone of them could experience this beautiful gift she has given us! I will forever be so grateful for you Debra!
During this retreat I’ve learned so much about myself and my mom. Stuff that I would have never been able to see without the help of Debra. The way that she breaks it down makes everything so clear. Before meeting Debra and coming to this retreat, I didn’t have a relationship with my mom. To be honest if this didn’t work I was ready to give up. But after just 3 days of working with Debra everything has changed.
I now understand why we act the way we do , what to do and how to talk to my mom when I’m triggered. I am so extremely grateful to have Debra and I wouldn’t want anyone else to help me with this process. I’ve literally only known her for about 4 days and I trust her with my life. The work that she does is amazing I will never forget how she changed my life.
–I love you, daughter
tanya, mom & ruby, daughter
In the short 3 days here in Arizona at this retreat I have learned so much valuable information, tools, and skills I cannot wait to get home and put these in use on our everyday life.
Debra is great! She is kind, compassionate, and open. She can work with any situation and turn it into a positive learning and eye-opening experience.
dina eastwood, mom
Through the thickest fog that life can bring comes Debra Beck: a radiant voice of reason during times of trouble or uncertainty. I, and several of my family and friends, have worked with Debra, regularly, for more than a year. Whether she helps me through an emotional “911″, or helps me slowly untangle some of my scars from childhood, she is always there with a calming, empowering presence.
Debra Beck is a beacon of light and love who will enable you and your loved ones to know and love yourselves more then you ever imagined possible. I am a better woman, mother and friend because of Debra’s influence on my life.
Debra “Wow, all I can say is that you are simply amazing! I have been to many different therapists, throughout my life, but I have never walked out of anyone’s office with a greater understanding of who I am and what makes me tick, except yours. In just three short days, you did more for my well-being than the therapists have done in a year or cumulatively over a lifetime. I would like to thank you sincerely for helping me uncover and connect with my true self.
“Through the three-day intensive retreat, you helped me discover my lifelong patterns, wounds and their triggers. I finally have clarity on how I have spent the last thirty-seven years of my life reacting to and living my life through the lens of my wounded inner child. Oh, by the way I did not even know that I had triggers no less an inner child until you showed them to me. I now enjoy the awareness and tools with which I can heal my wounds and change how I view my past, present and the future. I no longer carry around the shame, guilt and heavy burdens of being unworthy of love, hope and happiness. You have shed light into the deepest recesses of my mind and helped me understand how the patterns of wounding connect to each other and ultimately influence my codependent and self-limiting behaviors and by doing so you have set me on the path to thrive instead of survive.”
-Thank you, M
“Debra is the first mentor in my life who was able to produce changes in me and consequently in my family . I’m a mother of 6 with children ranging from 9-21 and have been married 25 years . We had previous marriage counseling with no results . Debra has taught me how to deal with my triggers ( and there are many) and how to heal my childhood wounds . I’m learning to give myself compassion ,a very new and powerful practice when you are used to putting yourself down. As a result my confidence grew and a level of peace has been restored to my family. My marriage is better and my quiet husband started sharing and wanting to spend time with me. My oldest child who had gone through a time of rebellion and recreational drug use , having been asked to leave the house , is now home ,clean and working hard to pay off hefty court fines ( yes he was In trouble with the law). Through that heart wrenching ordeal I was able to stay calm and go on with my life and family only because of Debra’s help. My second oldest started coming out of her shell and is now communicating and open to share more than before . All in all I’m at a place of peace that was unknown to me before and I continue to use Debra’s strategies to work on triggers and the many learning opportunities a family of 8 presents to me.”
My daughter and I have been mentoring with Debra for about 4 months. Within a very short time, I have noticed many positive changes, especially with her self-esteem and confidence. She has improved tremendously in the way she handles decisions relating to work and social relationships by planning ahead, budgeting finances, thinking independently and listening to her inner voice. Most importantly she has moved on from a very dysfunctional relationship. During family get-togethers, our extended relatives have also commended on her overall upbeat and positive attitude.
I recommend Debra to any parent/young adult who can use coaching and guidance during these very challenging years.
After my first mentoring session with Debra, I became so clear on the issues at hand. It was so easy to express my concerns through Debra and then my daughter. My daughter actually heard me for, what seemed like the first time. I also started listening to my daughter through different ears and was able to step into her reality and have an understanding for what she was feeling. My daughter said that she loved the retreat because she finally felt heard. Thank you Debra, you have taught us a different way of relating with each other that will allow us to continue to develop and nurture a stronger relationship with each other.”
-A Grateful heart
Debra I want to Thank You! As you remember I was at the lowest time in my life, lost at how to get myself back on track. My wife had an affair that put me in a desperate situation, I needed tools to get myself straightened out.In the three day retreat you spent 8 hrs a day helping me re-connect with my spiritual side. In the months after this retreat I have used your method to reach an unbelievable connection to Source. I am no longer afraid of emotional pain that comes into my life, I now have the skills to take care of my self emotionally. Debra I am glad to say that my new Primary relationship is with Source and I will never go back to the old ways. Somethings have happened since the retreat that changed my life forever. I feel I’m guided by a higher Power and I surrendered myself to that Power. I’m a happy Man. I recommend any of you guys interested in getting on the right track, to give Debra a try. I Promise you will walk away with the tools you need to have a successful life. Thank You! Debra. I will always be Grateful for you.
This Mom thought it would be a good idea to develop a stronger relationship with her daughter before she hit her teen years, see what they say.
“I have a huge appreciation for Debra and the work she is doing to help mothers and daughters connect with themselves through increased self-awareness and self-esteem and to connect with each other through communication, understanding, and FUN! I felt absolutely pampered throughout our three day retreat with Debra as she organized everything, provided us with a flexible schedule, and allowed for lots of free time to just BE. We made full use of the kitchen and enjoyed the walking proximity to shops and restaurants. The hiking and scenery in Sedona is stunning.”
Debra is nice and has a beautiful garden. She’s supportive and you get lots of time to be by yourself but also lots of time with her. I had a lot of fun there.
Iris, daughter, age 9.
Our family has been working with Debra for over 2 years. She has provided guidance and facilitated communication for me and my husband to ‘get on the same page’ about parenting a pre-teen/teen, which is no joke. She has also been a trusted confidant and friend to our 11-/13-year old daughter, who has opened up to Debra and enjoys talking to her now – especially when we’ve upset her. Debra has been a great resource for all three of us to navigate the waters of living in a home with a pre-teen/teenager. She is very down-to-earth, direct, yet still approachable to pre-teen/teen girls and their parents alike. We’ve been amazed at small ideas and techniques she suggested, which have helped bring peace and fun back into our home lives. It has been an absolute pleasure and miracle to have her in our lives, and I recommend her to anyone needing encouragement during these tough teenage years that can make or break a family.
Thanks, Debra. You are a life-saver and we love you!
My daughter is 15 years old and we have recently started the mentoring program with Debra. We came to her in a mode of crisis. There was no harmony in our home. My husband and I were so desperate that we were searching for a therapeutic boarding school for our daughter. We were failing at the job of parenting our daughter. We had previously tried therapists with little results. We decided to try Debra’s mentoring program because of a referral from our daughter’s friend who had been mentored by Debra for the past year. There was a big difference after just one visit! Our daughter has been going for a little over a month now. My husband and I also see Debra so that we can all work together for positive change. We are doing much better and Debra has helped our family immensely. She is very hands on and gives advice on how to handle specific situations. I’ve been working to change the way I interact with my daughter and some of the suggestions that Debra has offered have made a huge difference. We love Debra and are very grateful for her presence in our lives. We are still together as a family, so that says a lot.
-Two Happy Parents
“Working with Debra Beck in a concentrated time frame has been life changing for me. Debra has the ability to cut through the noise, and to immediately provide tools for change. Applying what I’ve learned through my work with her, she has helped me lead a happier, more peaceful, and more fulfilling life. Debra balances her down-to-earth and honest approach with a loving and compassionate presence that feels safe and facilitates rapid progress. I highly recommend working with Debra on any issues, or just overall self-development.”
Marion Sedona, AZ
Working with Debra is a pleasure. She is compassionate, clear and connected and her advice enabled me to move through a stubborn old relationship issue. Thank you, Debra!
- Sunny S.
A conversation with Debra about a career decision turned into a life-transforming insight! She brought to light an issue that I was unaware of and as soon as I heard her speak, it became so clear to me. I owe Debra many thanks for helping me understand what was causing my “block”. I now feel confident about making the changes I need to make.
- Roy G.
Before I began seeing Debra I was caught up in life's struggles, triggers and a roller coaster of emotions with no rhyme or reason. I didn't understand why things would happen to me and why I felt the way I did. Debra has taught me how to get in touch with myself and how to develop a relationship with me. My life has transformed into a beautiful venue for learning and growth. I am now equipped to handle any situation that arises by staying in touch with my higher self and taking responsibility for my own feelings, beliefs, and actions. Debra has also shown me how to look at myself with new eyes that aren't clouded with judgement. I can look myself in the mirror and genuinely love myself, faults and all. My acceptance and compassion for myself has spread to the people around me and I can look at them with my new eyes and appreciate who they really are. I have all this and more thanks to Debra's wisdom and loving guidance. I couldn't be more honored and grateful that Debra came into my life, her mentorship is priceless.
I really feel more connected with myself and my mom after the retreat. I liked learning about the inner child and felt more aware of myself, my triggers and my actions. I am more aware of how other people judgments weren’t about me. It was a great experience overall and would come back. It is something that will help me throughout my life.
-Brianna 16-years-old daughter
Debra Beck is amazing. Her method gets quickly to the heart of things and is transformational for adults and families. Thank you