Our Coaching and Mentoring programs are a great way to get outside guidance to help with issues both parents and teens are struggling with.
“A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself.”
- Oprah Winfrey
Parent & Teen Coach and Mentor, Debra Beck
PARENT MENTOR, DEBRA BECK, Award Winning Author of What if your teen isn't the problem? A guide to conscious parenting, and my Feet Aren't Ugly: A Girl's guide to loving herself from the inside out
I have been working closely with teens and parents for over 25 years.
Parenting two daughters myself, I have such compassion for raising kids
in today’s world. It seems a lot tougher with social media, the internet,
technology in general, creating an environment where our kids are more
disconnected from us and wanting to grow up much quicker than their
minds are capable.
I believe that raising our children is the most important job we will ever
have in the world, and the toughest job we will ever take on. In these
confusing and challenging times, I am so grateful to be supporting
parents through this process. Through my mentoring program for
parents, I have helped parents create a healthier family dynamic and
more harmony with their teens.
Parents will learn:
- To look at their own fears around their teen’s behaviors, so
they can show up for their teens from a place of love not fear. - To step into their teen's reality and truly listen, so their teen
remains open to them, and they can be the ones guiding
them, not their friends. - To create healthy boundaries, without a huge disturbance.
- To support their teen in making better decisions for
themselves and growing into mature young adults. - To learn better communication skills, to create a deeper
connection.
I have always been extremely vocal about how important I think it is to have a Mentor in your life, especially as a tween or teen during these times of uncertainty. I honestly feel I couldn’t offer up a better person as a Mentor for your teen than my daughter, Amber. This seems like such a beautiful collaboration because of my work with mothers and daughters.
Teen Coach and Mentor, Amber Tidwell
Amber is a certified Youth Resilience Life Coach who has been mentoring youth in a multitude of settings for over 15 years. She offers individual and small group sessions online.
Sessions are focused on supporting teens and young adults with deeper self-discovery, empowerment, and resilience, while working toward their personal goals. The process includes an exploration of individual strengths, resources, and values, as well as any limiting behavior patterns or beliefs.
Amber provides strengths-based guidance that respects each individual’s unique journey of self-discovery. Her coaching style is empathetic, non-judgmental, and adaptive, and her approach is deeply centered in the practice of mindful self-compassion. Because choice and autonomy are central to her approach, it is imperative that teen clients want to participate in the process, rather than being coerced. During a free 20-minute consultation, she will speak with both the teen and supporting adult independently to ensure a good fit.
Goal Topic Examples:
- confidence building
- relationships
- self-management
- communication
- managing stress and anxiety
- mindfulness
- conflict resolution
- self-care
- academic achievement
- career direction
- healthy habits
- self-discovery
Teen Mentor, Amber
& Savannah G., Age 23
I met Amber when I was 16 through a mentoring circle at my small alternative high school. We sat in a weekly sharing circle together for 2 and a half years.
My senior year I was several credits behind my graduation requirements. That year, she helped me to earn those extra credits for graduation by taking me under her wing as an intern at her job working with kids on a farm. In that experience, I learned a lot of self-value, confidence, and practical and social skills.
From then on, we’ve remained close and have continued to engage in regular self-reflective check-ins and fun adventures. She is an open-minded listener who is uplifting and reassuring to talk with.
~ Savannah G.
Debra has been a God send. The months leading up to me contacting her were filled with days of dread, anger, guilt, and hopelessness as my daughter and I were constantly fighting and angry with each other. We were emotionally disconnected and to be honest I didn’t really like being around my daughter and her negative energy. She would tell me how much she hates me and wishes she had a different family. I felt she needed help and that if we could just “fix” her then we would have a peaceful house.
I went into the mentor sessions thinking Debra would help me figure out my daughter and HER issues. But Debra did something even better, she helped me figure out MY issues. She helped me acknowledge past traumas, what my triggers are , and how old beliefs relate to how I handle my daughter. She helped me realize how I play a huge part in all this and gave me tools to deal with my triggers. She gave great insight and suggestions on how to handle certain situations and held me accountable to follow through with them.
Mom, Heather, and Daughter
After only a few months of working with Debra our house has become a more peaceful place for the whole family. My days are no longer filled with dread and anger. We both actually want to spend time with each other and best of all she tells me she loves me and gives me big hugs. Because of Debra I’m now filled with hope that I will have that mother daughter relationship that I’ve always longed for. ~Heather, Mom
The most important observation I've had with Amber’s ability to connect with young people has been with the raising of my grandson, Junin, who is now 21-years-old. From the time he was very young I noticed a presence she has in tending to his needs from a loving place, not a place of fear. For those of you who have worked with me, you know what an extremely important characteristic this is because this keeps your teen open to you, so you can be the one guiding them.
~ Debra
What makes my mom a good Mother is how open, and loving she is. Some parents say no for no reason, she opens it up for discussion and looks at the bigger picture in the situation and we actually communicate. She is not quick to judge and lets me make mistakes which helps me learn from those mistakes. Even though it might not be the best outcome, it’s the best learning. She also gives me space to think about things and to work through it before we talk. She is a great listener and truly cares about what’s going on in my life, but not with intrusion, and this makes it easier to share.
~Junin, Amber's son
Debra's daughter, Amber
and grandson, Junin
Our mentoring programs will help your teens learn that they have the power to make their life what they want it to be. That through being responsible for their own actions they can change their reality. Amber helps teenagers develop a stronger sense of self so they can make better decisions in their lives.
As parents, when our kids are younger, we have to manage their lives for them, as they get older, we have to teach them how to manage their lives if we want them to be confident, successful adults.
Debra works with the parent to help them look at their fears and behaviors that might be getting in the way of their teen being connected to them. If your teen isn’t connected to you, you can’t guide them, they won’t be open to you. You want your teen to be open to you so you can be the one guiding them, not outside influences.
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Our daughter is 15 years old and we have recently started the mentoring program with Debra. We came to her in a mode of crisis. There was no harmony in our home. My husband and I were so desperate that we were searching for a therapeutic boarding school for our daughter. We were failing at the job of parenting our daughter. We had previously tried therapists with little results.
We decided to try Debra’s mentoring program because of a referral from our daughter’s friend who had been mentored by Debra for the past year. There was a big difference after just one visit! Our daughter has been going for a little over a month now. My husband and I also see Debra so that we can all work together for positive change. We are doing much better and Debra has helped our family immensely. She is very hands on and gives advice on how to handle specific situations.
I’ve been working to change the way I interact with my daughter and some of the suggestions that Debra has offered have made a huge difference. We love Debra and are very grateful for her presence in our lives. We are still together as a family, so that says a lot.”
-Jane & Greg, two happy parents
“Through the thickest fog that life can bring comes Debra Beck: a radiant voice of reason during times of trouble or uncertainty. I, and several of my family and friends, have worked with Debra, regularly, for more than a year. Whether she helps me through an emotional “911″, or helps me slowly untangle some of my scars from childhood, she is always there with a calming, empowering presence.
Debra Beck is a beacon of light and love who will enable you and your loved ones to know and love yourselves more than you ever imagined possible. I am a better woman, mother and friend because of Debra’s influence on my life. "
~ Dina Fisher
