Are Our Fears Affecting Our Teens?

Are Our Fears Affecting Our TeensCreating Teen Fears: Are You Projecting Paranoia onto Your Kids?

Have you ever considered whether your protective desires are also causing teen fears? Typical teen issues include things like talking back or being lazy about homework, but if you instill too much fear in your kids, they could end up with worse problems.

1. Stress, Depression and Other Teen Issues

While it’s good for kids to be aware of the dangers in the world, they also need to have faith in the goodness of humanity. Being watchful and aware of your surroundings isn’t the same thing as being paranoid. When warning your children about stranger danger and other threats, be sure to reinforce that there are more good people in the world than bad. If teens grow up paranoid of fellow human beings, they might struggle socially.

2. Failure to Learn Accountability

It’s natural to want to protect your kids from pain, but in doing so, you might be shielding them from life experiences that could be crucial for their development. It’s through failure that we learn to be accountable for our actions. If you’re always protecting your children from making mistakes, how will they learn to make smart choices when you’re not around? Teen esteem needs to develop during these years, and there is no time in life where it’s safer to make mistakes.

3. Growing Resentment

Another negative of being overprotective is that your teens will begin to resent you over time. Teens feel a strong need to develop their independence, and if they aren’t allowed to do so, they will begin feeling helpless and out of control. Begin giving your teen more adult responsibilities and see how they handle it. You might end up pleasantly surprised.

Instead of trying to avoid problems by creating teen fears, consider asking questions that help them navigate tough situations. If mistakes are made, allow them to accept and work through the consequences. For assistance in learning these valuable life skills, consider signing up for one of my online retreats. We will discuss teen esteem, healthy boundaries and how to make smart decisions.

If you are interested in managing your fears to help your teen, please contact me today and we can discuss a variety of issues related to teen self esteem and explore healthy coping mechanisms. Call me at  928-300-0447 or

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