Being the Best Parent We Can Be!

We all do our best to not make the same mistakes that our parents made, as they did the best they could to avoid repeating their parents’ mistakes. But no matter how conscious we try to be, somewhere along the line, we do something that feels less than conscious and eerily resembles our parents’ parenting skills. It’s a cringe-worthy moment!

Most of the time, we are just acting out of an unconscious place in us that gets triggered by our kids or others. Our teens do something that brings up emotions for us, and we react. What if we knew ourselves so well that when we got triggered, we recognized it immediately and were able to breathe? In that moment, we could pause—and instead of projecting our emotions onto our teens and shutting them down—we could respond from a higher place within us.

One of the chapters in my new book, What If Your Teen Isn’t the Problem? A Guide to Conscious Parenting, which will be released on July 7, 2025, explores the belief systems that get triggered by our teens and how to work with them so you don’t react. When you react and project your emotions onto your teen, they stop listening. They shut down and can’t be guided by you.

One of the most common things I hear from parents is that their teens feel disconnected from them, and they’re not sure how to guide them. What if you could change that? When we explore the old beliefs we created from our childhood and see how our teens rub up against those beliefs that upset us—it’s also a huge opportunity. Just by becoming aware of those triggers, you’re already halfway to showing up differently. When we begin healing and shifting those old beliefs, we start showing up in a more conscious, connected relationship with our teens.

For those of you who have been unable to attend a Mother-Daughter Retreat, this book is a great roadmap and start toward healing your relationship with your teen. If you’ve already experienced one of my retreats, What If Your Teen Isn’t the Problem? will serve as a powerful reminder of the techniques and tools you learned. This book offers a clear, compassionate, and practical way to reflect on your parenting behaviors and begin shifting them—so you can truly be the parent your teen needs.

Times are different in this new digital world, staying connected is harder than it used to be. We need all the tools we can get.

If you’re ready to explore how and whether a Mother-Daughter Retreat could help you and your teen, I’d love to talk. Schedule a free consultation, and we can explore what’s possible for your unique situation. Together, we can find a path to bring you and your daughter closer, one step at a time.

Mother-Daughter Retreat Testimonial

“I enjoyed working with Debra from the start. Debra was able to relate, and as she shared her past experiences that helped make me comfortable with the decision that this was the right Retreat for us. Debra was able to open my eyes to all the leaves and how they not only affect me but those close to me. Debra provided my daughter and I the tools to work through our triggers and not let our egos control our lives. I am very grateful for the program and for Debra, and I look forward to practicing what we’ve learned in our every day.”
  – Jackie, Mother

“This retreat has truly helped me grow as a person. Being a teenager isn’t easy, but I have really opened my eyes and learned how to deal with all of my problems through this Retreat.”
– Payton, Daughter

Warmly,
Debra