Talking Behind People's Back-Do You Have High Self-Esteem?

“Every time you make fun of someone or talk about people behind their backs, you act like you’re better than they are. It leaves you feeling bad because you know deep down that you are not better than they are.”

Kids talk behind each others backs all the time, actually all age groups do this. How did it feel knowing someone was talking behind your back, saying mean things about you? Terrible! Well, the problem is, not only are you making someone feel crummy about themselves, but you are making yourself feel crummy too. Whenever we do things that aren’t nice to others it makes us feel bad about ourself and lowers our self esteem. We want to be seen as a good person in our own eyes. If we aren’t, it affects how we view ourself. Just think of it like this…if you say something bad about someone else it bounces off of them, and back onto you. So you are actually saying those mean things about yourself.

If you want to have good self esteem, you have to like yourself, to like yourself, you have to be like-able. It’s hard to be like-able if you’re being mean to others. It’s pretty simple, if you’re a mean person, you’re not going to like yourself, because we don’t like mean people. If you’re with your friends and they start talking badly about someone, is it possible for you to be empowered enough to stand up for that person, this is even taking it a step further. If you do good things to others, you feel really good about yourself. So, you have the choice, what’s it going to be?