Does your teen have healthy boundaries? Can she say no?
Teens need to understand the value and importance of saying no. Schools focus on teaching academics, but they often neglect some of the most crucial lessons kids should learn about life. One of those lessons is how to set boundaries.
The Dangers of Poor Boundaries: Difficulty Navigating Life
People who don’t understand how to set healthy boundaries often suffer in life. Boundaries are important for our work lives, our sexual and romantic lives, and our interactions with friends and family. Without a healthy understanding of boundaries, a person will end up in a variety of toxic situations.
Bad situations, such as abusive relationships or terrible jobs, often traumatize people and further damage their understanding of boundaries. This is why we see people who attract abusive relationships or other problematic situations over and over again.
Two of the most important qualities we can instill in our children are strong self-esteem and the ability to think for themselves. If your teen has these two qualities, setting boundaries will come more naturally. However, many adults suffer with low self-worth, let alone struggling teens. To be able to set boundaries, your teen must first understand that they are deserving of having an opinion and a voice.
Teen Issues with Boundaries: Providing Guidance
How can we help our teens understand that saying no is okay? First, you must teach your child to trust their intuition. If something or someone doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to say no. Whether they’re being pressured by a boyfriend to have sex or pressured by a friend to attend a party, they shouldn’t do anything that makes them uncomfortable. Learning to set teen boundaries will provide a strong platform to support healthy boundaries throughout life.
Discussing Teen Boundaries: Consider a Mother-daughter Retreat
A retreat is a great place to sit down and have a deep talk about boundaries. You’ll be out of your everyday routine, and your teen will be free of peer influences for a little while. At our retreats in Sedona, Arizona, we discuss strong boundaries, self-esteem, and more.