Troubleshooting Teen Problems
During the difficult teen years, it’s more important than ever for parents to be supportive. However, sometimes parents need a little support too. If you’re struggling with a difficult teen, you’re not alone. There are many common problems that parents face while raising teens, and luckily, there are also some good solutions.
The Problem: You Don’t Like Your Teen’s Friends
The Solution:Â First, you need to examine exactly why these particular kids rub you the wrong way. Is it the way they dress or wear their hair? Are they disrespectful? Do they drink, use drugs or do other reckless behaviors that worry you?
If the things that bug you are superficial, it’s best to let them go. Kids with wild hair and punk-rock clothing can still be nice people. However, if you’re witnessing dangerous behaviors, you have every right to be concerned. Your first step is talking to your child about why these activities should be avoided. Next, consider individual or family therapy.
The Problem: Your Teen is Glued to the Phone
The Solution:Â These days, it’s difficult to forbid teens from using the Internet. Online networking is a huge part of social interaction for both teens and adults. It can, however, cross into unhealthy territory. Teens need help finding balance in their lives, which means that parents need to set limits. It’s a good idea to forbid texting, calling or using the Internet during dinner time. You should also set a limit on how late your teen is allowed to use the computer before bed.
The Problem: Your Teen Keeps Missing Curfew
The Solution:Â First, it’s important to examine whether or not you’re being reasonable with the curfew. Call a few other parents or research online to find out a common curfew for a child your age. If your teen is expected home earlier than all of his or her friends, sticking to curfew will be more difficult.
Being reasonable with your expectations and allowing for imperfection will help your child feel better about following your rules. If they are late, use this as an opportunity to talk about being a person of their word and how trust comes into play with you giving them more freedom.
The Problem: Your Teen Claims to Hate You
The Solution:Â It’s inevitable that most parents will receive an “I hate you” from their child at some point. It’s so common that it could almost be considered a rite of passage. Separating from parents is a crucial part of adolescent development, but that doesn’t mean you should allow your child to be disrespectful. It also doesn’t mean that it’s okay to be disrespectful back. It’s your job to remain calm and handle situations with maturity, don’t take their mean comments personally. It’s not about you!
